void of existence

In the developed world, everything is looked upon with standards.  But these standards are not always applicable to what some places (countries) are able to meet.  We condemned the government of those countries of not doing their jobs.  We think the people as ‘poor thing’.

Firstly, do they need our sympathy?  What can our sympathy do for them?  Nothing. 

Then, there will be people who feel that they can make a difference.  No matter how small.  Now that is stupid.  have always said that the people and government have to want that.  The economies in the world thrives on the middle income.  But the middle income always get the hardest when it come to the crunch.

But that is not the point.  Just as people would like to help in lesser developed countries, they must realize that those trips are not a vacation.  It will not be a walk in the park.  Its not that I do not have sympathy for their plight.  But its just that the danger is part of the risks that they should have considered before going on such trips. 

Another week passed.

Yesterday was a day of trouble.  Lots of people around me seem to be troubled. 

Work stress is a problem.  Personal relationship is a problem.  Lack of communication is a problem. 

The girl of the month at the club  – Sonia

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Tomorrow marks the end of an era.  No, not era..but a period.

When is enough being enough? 

I spent 5 years to get over a girl.  Ultimately, when that emotional baggage was gone, I met someone who filled me with joy and happiness. 

Being in a relationship should be a joyous thing.  No pretending to be someone who we are not.  There are roles that we should be mindful of.  But those are not, or should not, be restricting us from what we enjoy being alive. 

Becky and I had a conversation once about being more adamant about who we want to be with and what we want from our partners as we get older.  I still think that is true. 

What is the point of being in a relationship that does nothing that brings a frown upon our face and gives us wrinkles that we do not earn at this age.  Every other day, there is something to fight about..  What is the point of that kind of relationship?

Side track a bit, the most unattractive thing that a girl can have is the wrinklies between the eye brows and that is contributed from excessive frowning.

After all, we already know what we can give in a relationship.  That being said, of course we need to adjust ourselves.  Being alone and being with someone is very different after all.  We need to plan more with the other person in mind.  We also need to be mindful that what we does on a normal day does not cause discomfort to the other parties. 

Fate brings two persons together, effort keeps two persons together.  Effort is from both parties.  If its one party, that relationship is requiring F-word and not effort.

When it is time to let go, we know its difficult.  People are creatures of habit.  Even though we know its bad, we will stick to the routine rather than conciously go into the unknown, as that is scary.  We rather suffer than be scared.  Suffering provides company and sparing joyous moments.  The unknown is like being in ‘Deal or No Deal’ without a banker to offer to buy the suitcase we have and no elimination of other suitcases to suggest what we have in our suitcase.  It may be the lottery ticket or it may not.  Let us stick to suffering then.

Heard this song yesterday for the first time.  And I thought that this is a perfect K song.

Talk about unusual names.  A couple in China tried to name their kid – @.  My bro, Sam, came across a girl naming herself ‘ABCD’.  The way to pronounce it ‘Ab-si-dy’.  Cool, isn’t it?

 Posted by Debbie Rocker on Wed, Apr 25, 2007, 8:25 am PDT

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Are you trying too hard, working out too much, planning your weight loss demise?
 
I can’t tell you how often I hear, “I work out every day and can’t seem to lose my stomach.” Or, “I am on this new diet, I don’t know why, they never work.” Or, “Working out isn’t working anymore. When I started spinning (or working out with my trainer) I lost 10 pounds right away – now I am spinning (or training) twice as much and can’t lose a pound.”

If you are working out every day – cut it out – it’s too much. And if you are not enjoying your exercise class, or running, or meeting your trainer – forget it! That training is draining. And if in your heart you do not believe that “this new diet” will work for you – don’t do it. You are not only wasting time (and money probably) but also reinforcing failure!

Try a different tactic. I think you need to change up your workouts and rework your mind about eating.

Start here:
1. No new diets, no new restrictions, just stop it all.

2. Repeat a positive mantra to yourself every day to recondition your thinking – and your behavior will change because of it.

While thinking the following thoughts, envision yourself healthy, happily eating the foods and in the shape you want to be: “I enjoy whole healthy foods, I prefer them, I choose them, I lose weight easily and my health is better because of them.”

3. Envision your workouts the night before as easy and fun. Really, even for the intense days, see yourself totally loving the workout.

And when you are ready to train with precision:

a) Two workouts a week 20-30 minutes at high intensity (your rate of perceived exertion should be 8-9 on a scale of 1-10, 10 being highest). Try 10 two-minute speed intervals (walking fast, running or cycling/spinning) with 30-60 seconds of recovery in between.

b) one workout a week for 60 minutes or more at a moderate intensity. Walk, cycle or run at a steady but moderate pace.

c) one circuit workout a week for 35-45 minutes at moderately high intensity. Try walking powerfully or jogging/running or mix it, alternating running and walking, for five minutes, then go into two sets of 15 walking lunges on each side with a 30-60 seconds break (walking easily) in between.

Then walk/jog at moderately high intensity for 10 minutes, find a bench or curb and alternate one set of 10 push ups, with a set of 10 triceps extensions (two times each). Walk/jog powerfully for five minutes and then do two sets of 50 jumping jacks with a little recovery (15-30 seconds of jogging in place) in between. Walk/jog for 10 minutes and then finish off with two sets of 15 abdominal crunches.
 
The formula for success: four workouts a week, daily affirmations, and positive visualization – that’ll get you in shape and in love with your life.

Happy Trails –
Debbie Rocker

I like this version much better.

Concepts.. That is the basis of all human beliefs. 

Everything that we understand, know and believe must be within a finite boundary.

The world was flat once as that is how the world was being conceptualized.  What if you are told that the world is flat now?  Your reply is likely to be ‘But its round!’, and hence our discussion will begin.

Right now, it is the scary scary month on the lunar calendar.  I do not understand the system of why this is so.  Does it mean that it doesn’t exist?  To me, the answer is No.

Everything that we know are given to us in concepts that we can test empirically.  Gravity, energy (oil, gas, electricity, wind, solar), friction, matter and all other manner of quantifiable things were not created by man.  They are discovered, studied and converted into concepts that we can test and use.

So it is now human concepts that determine on our practices and social etiquettes.  Human concepts that is driven by political, social and economical desires.  We need something to believe in.  But that doesnt mean that what is not define does not exist.  It also does not mean what one culture defines is right over another culture.

Someone asked me today what is it like being 30s and single.  I am really not sure how to answer that question.

Sometimes, I feel that life hasnt changed since I start remembering.  Dun get me wrong.  Lots of things are different and many things have changed.  Yet, life is just the same.  There are 24 hours a day.  Despite some days seem longer and some days are shorter.  But overall, its still the same.  We live by each day.  Some of us tries to make everyday as fulfilled as possible by doing as many things as possible.  I would not use meaningful or meaningless here since everyone measures things differently.  A person may think of spending all their awake time working as meaningful while another may think spending time to do volunteer work as meaningful.  We just need to do things that meant something to us.  Otherwise, its just not a fulfilling day. 

I looked at myself and I wonder where I am going.  A conversation sometime ago concluded that there really isn’t a need to have a goal in our life.  Priorities changes anyways.  We just need to focus on the bigger picture while filling out the details.  After details are the basis for the bigger picture.  But if we do not understand the bigger picture, our lives will just have us being busy with details that lead out of the picture and go no where near what we want to accomplish.

So to answer the question.  There is really no difference.  We are living the day.  Being single is just a state of mind and its just a definition of whether we have someone to travel with on this road of life. 

And I thank everyone who matter and the person who make me part of their lives.